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Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

Leo’s pregnancy story and little scare

Wednesday, March 2, 2022



Wow. It’s been 8 months and I’m finally sitting down to write a bit more about my second pregnancy.  I wrote Nico’s birth story within a few weeks, it’s definitely so different with the second kid- whenever, I have a moment, I just try to spend them with either of them!


Here is the pregnancy announcement, from a year ago (oops! I am so sorry). I really miss writing in this blog!


But before I write about Leo’s delivery…let’s start from the beginning.


Leo wasn’t 100% planned as Nico. We have always wanted two kids, but the pandemic started when Nico was about 1.5 years old, and our planned shifted a little bit. *You can also read here "are we ready for baby #2?" from May 2020*


By August-September 2020, we stopped being as careful- like if it happens, it happens! A three year old difference felt good. Nico would be *hopefully* in school, and a bit more independent. 


I found out I was pregnant right around Halloween 2020, and oh boy I was surprised! There is a funny story actually. In October 2020, I was hired to create content for a pregnancy test company. It was purely for their usage, I didn’t have to be in the pictures or post them in my social media. The company sent me several pregnancy tests + ovulation kits.  I thought “oh well, whenever we really want to try for Baby #2, I already have these ovulation kits”.


After Halloween, I had a feeling I was pregnant. I just KNEW it! (with my previous pregnancies, Nico and the miscarriage, I also KNEW!) So I went ahead and took one of those tests I had in my vanity..and it was POSITIVE! I started freaking out and I texted my manager asking if the tests actually worked or they were made to say positive (as they had to show positive in the pictures).  They 100% were real tests, and we started joking saying that gig brought “fertility vibes” into my life.


This time, it was different. I told all my friends as soon as I found out. And I told my parents as soon as the pregnancy was confirmed by an ultra-sound.  I had a miscarriage in 2017, before Nico and I was so scared throughout Nico’s pregnancy that I did not enjoy it.  I learned that I really wanted to tell the people I would also share bad news with, people that have been there for me unconditionally.


Long story short, I had a lot of issues with my health insurance (“the American dream”, sarcasm included).  So it took a while for my OB to see me. 


By the time I was 17 weeks, I started bleeding after working out. I was working out a lot before getting pregnant, so  I wanted to stay active (with little modifications, of course).  We were shooting a reel and I noticed the bleeding and I started to freak out- because that's exactly how my miscarriage started in 2017...and this time, I had SEEN the baby, I  knew he was a boy, and he had a name.


I cried uncontrollably the whole trip to the emergency room- and because of Covid, I had to enter alone. I started crying even more thinking of all the women that had received bad news in those rooms ALONE- without their partners, without a hand to hold. That made me even more upset with the Covid situation, as I kept scrolling on my phone and everyone seemed to be partying out and about.


Thankfully, the baby was perfect. It was my placenta that was very low (placenta previa) and that's why I was bleeding. So I  had to be in bed-rest for two weeks: I couldn't carry my 2 year old, workout, do any lifting, etc.  I was told to reach out to a high-risk doctor.


The next day I saw my doctor, the midwife that also delivered Nico. He was horrible, he scared me saying what you SHOULDN'T tell a pregnant woman. He told me I would need a c-section, that I might need blood transfusions, that there were a lot complications, that they might need to remove my uterus.


It was really scared, I would hold Nico so close thinking I was just told I could die in birth. Obviously I changed doctors immediately, and my new doctor (Lorena Tinoco and her partner) were absolutely amazing, they explained everything to me and they would just check the placenta every time. It slowly started migrated towards the top of the uterus.


Around 25-26 weeks, I was out of the danger zone. I started doing pre-natal yoga and walking. and I could carry my toddler, it broke my heart every time we wanted me to hold him and I just couldn't.


Spoiler alert: I did have a great delivery (more on that later), vaginal delivery with no complications.


So if you have been diagnosed with placenta previa in early pregnancy- stay hopeful! Everything will be okay!!



Baby #2 IS ON THE WAY!

Thursday, April 15, 2021



Almost a year ago,  I wrote an article about "Are We Ready For Baby #2?".

We definitely have been ready for another baby for a while, but the pandemic changed our plans and we were just going with the flow. Since I haven't shared the news here on the blog,  let me just share it here too!

A few days after my birthday in October,  I found out I was pregnant. It was a bit of a shock because we weren't necessarily TRYING (not being too careful either).  You can  see Gabe's reaction in the video on IG. It was such a sweet reaction!

We waited a lot to share it, I was over 20 weeks- but I decided to wait because we had a scare at 17 weeks and just wanted to hold this baby tighter.

At the moment of this post, I am almost 29 weeks pregnant.  We have both been feeling great!

I'll continue to share more updates here, as I can write more and express myself! This has been like an open to the public diary for 10 years!

We were, and are, SO excited and happy. Nico is really excited to be a big brother and we can't wait to see them together! Leave any questions below! But you can see a few Q+A on my Instagram!






 

3 Toddler Educational Activities with Etsy

Tuesday, September 22, 2020


Sponsored by Etsy. This post contains affiliate links. All opinions are my own. 




This year definitely is a lot different from what we were expecting. We had everything planned for Nico to start school, but the universe had a different plan. 

Today I want to tell you a bit of the toddler activities that we have been doing at home to make sure Nico is learning what the fundamentals for his age while having fun. 

Etsy is my go-to for one-of-a kind finds in absolutely every department. You can find Back To School items that are functional and unique WHILE supporting small businesses. 

He is wearing the cutest alphabet sweatshirt- he was super excited when he saw it. He said random letters in Spanish and wanted to put it on instantly (I also had my eye on this one that you can customize) 

So now that we have our alphabet sweatshirt on, here are some of of Toddler Educational Ac- tivities you can find: 




1) Wooden Puzzle: 

They are an amazing learning toy, to practice spelling their name and learning the letters. I really liked this one that includes a bear and a mountain on each side of the customized named. 

Another option I loved was this one that also includes shapes, colors, and numbers. I ordered it recently, and it should be arriving very soon! 

2) Sensory kits: 

Sensory play is crucial for child development as it encourages imaginative play, helps develop fine motor skills, and building help connections in the brain. 

We have a dinosaur one that is absolutely adorable. Also check out the construction sensory kit, and a mermaid one! 

3) Wooden Block Sets 

Such a classic activity but it truly helps them practice hand-eye coordination, shape recogni- tion, and encourages open ended play with endless imagination. 

-This one includes 100 wooden pieces in 9 different shapes.

 - This other set has 29 blocks in various shapes and color! 

What’s a must activity you do or did with your toddler? Share it with us! 







BACK TO SCHOOL with Nico

Monday, August 17, 2020

*Sponsored by Vera Bradley and Shopstyle*


 Nico, our two-year-old, was supposed to start school this season. We had chosen a little school for him to go half day. Since my husband and I work together, this would have given us time to focus on our projects for a few hours a day. Also, we wanted him to start interacting with other kids, and learn something every day.


Well, this year is definitely different from anything we would have ever imagine, and our plans changed. However, the current worldwide circumstances might have postponed OUR planes, but it doesn’t stop him from growing and needing to learn new things.



So, I’ve been googling activities with him, and to have some sort of learning environment and stimulate his brain in a playful way. I’ve ordered a few things: canvas, kid friendly paint, more colors, playdough, books, etc.



I also got this beautiful Vera Bradley backpack; and yes, it is for me! I loved the print and I know I’m going to use it when we travel or as a diaper bag (because it has so many compartments and it fits EVERYTHING, even a 15’ laptop).  



This backpack is super lightweight but it fits all of his home-school things. I have everything organized inside so when it’s time to learn I take the backpack and I quickly set up whatever we are doing that afternoon.



It comes in 7 extremely cute patterns, and 4 solid colors. But I haven’t mentioned the best part, it is made from recycled water bottles (24 go into every pack), it is also durable and water repellent!



I can’t wait for him to get his own little backpack and go to school- but for now, I’ll enjoy this Vera Bradley for me and I’ll enjoy all the time I’m able to spend with him.



I’m absolutely loving the whole Back To School collection from Vera Bradley, there are also lunch boxes, stationary, and dorm accessories (all in a vast array of the cutest patterns and colors). And until 8/17/, there is a 25% Back-To-School essentials! Click here to learn more!


I also got this lunch cooler that I think it’s going to be perfect for the beach or picnics at the park!


We shouldn’t let this year get the back-to-school excitement from us and our little ones!














ARE WE READY FOR BABY NUMBER TWO?

Thursday, May 14, 2020



Every time I do any type of Q&A, I always see some form of these questions:
Do you want more kids?
How many kids do you want?
When are you having baby #2?

And I truly know that most of the time, it comes out of pure curiosity. But if there is something I learned when I went through my miscarriage is that you never know what is happening closed doors in relationships. Maybe just the dad wants more kids, maybe they are trying unsuccessfully, maybe they are going through IVF, maybe they just lost a baby, or maybe just don't want more kids and don't want to explain it to you.

But I want to open up with you and tell you how I feel (just me, I'm not talking about Gabe, this is just me). Also, if you disagree or your plans are different, that is okay too- this is our reality and every couple is very different!

To give you a little background, I have two older brothers. They are very close in age (around 11 months), and they are 10-11 years older than me.  I loved having older brothers, I admired them in every sense... from music to fashion. I just wanted to be like them.  And at the same time I was a little jealous that they had each other, I would have loved to have some sort of companion.  

Reason why, teenage Daniela would always say that her future kids would be super close in age.  And sure, that seems perfect until:
1. I realized pregnancy (and specially the delivery) took a toll on my body and I needed to HEAL- inside and out. I know many couples do back to back babies, but I've heard the second pregnancy can  even be a high risk pregnancy.
2. I realized we needed to move again.
3.  I realized I would need extra help with a second one. Again, amazing if you have help around the house or a nanny, for real that's amazing! We both work from home and we absolutely love doing it all.

So to finally answer the question, we are (or I am) ALMOST there. Nico turns two this Sunday, so my body has definitely healed. We just want Nico to be a little more independent- he still relies on me for SO SO many things.  I'd love for him to be potty trained, going to school, and understanding what would be happening better.

At the same time, I'm not going to lie...I feel the pressure. I think every single friend or acquaintance that was pregnant around the same time I was, is already pregnant or already had their second baby. So I start second-guessing myself... am I waiting too long? Are we doing something wrong? Should we just "get it over with"? (as people say).

Then I come to my senses and remind myself that having a baby is not something to get over with. I'm enjoying every single phase of Nico and I know I'm gonna enjoy the next one if the moment comes.

If you are in a similar situation just remind yourself that:
Everyone has their journey. Don't compare your journey to anybody's.
You two, as a couple, know when is the right time, and even if there is a right time. 
You don't owe explanations to anybody.

That's it! Sorry for the monologue! XOXO




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Cada vez que hago una sesión de preguntas y respuestas no falta las siguientes
"¿quieren más hijos?
¿cuántos hijos quieren?
¿y para cuando la parejita?

Yo sé que cada persona que hace esa pregunta, es por pura curiosidad. Pero si algo aprendí con mi pérdida es que uno nunca sabe lo que está pasando a puertas cerradas para esa pareja.  Tal vez solo uno de los dos quiere más hijos, tal vez están buscando bebé sin éxito, tal vez acaban de pasar por un aborto espontáneo, tal vez no quieren dar explicaciones de porque no quieren más hijos.

Por eso quiero extenderme con este post mega personal y contarles como me siento YO (no estoy tomando en cuenta a Gabe porque es algo que como pareja decidimos hablar más adelante) y tampoco quiero que nadie se sienta aludido, es nuestra realidad y cada pareja es un mundo.

Voy a empezar contándoles un poco de mi familia.  Tengo dos hermanos mayores, ellos se llevan menos de 11 meses- mientras que a mí me llevan más de 10 años. A mi me encantó tener hermanos mayores, mi nivel de admiración era de otro mundo. Mis hermanos eran cool, tenían tatuajes, estaban en una banda, escuchaban X tipo de música,  veían tales shows de TV. Mientras ellos se tenían uno al otro, yo los admiraba desde lejos como la hermanita chiquita.  Me hubiese encantado tener un compañero de aventuras. No fue hasta mis 18-20 años que realmente me sentí a la par con mis hermanos.

Razón por la cual la Daniela niña y adolescente siempre dijo que quería tener dos hijos y que se llevaran lo menos posible (en mi mente, como mis hermanos). PERO, la madurez y la realidad de pareja me llevó a entender que esos planes son....complicados. 

La recuperación del parto de Nico fue más dura de lo que imaginé. Y eso me dio a entender que es realmente importante darle a nuestros cuerpos tiempo para SANAR. Sé que es una decisión muy propia si una pareja quiere tenerlos tan seguidos como mis papás PERO no es lo recomendable. Y LO ENTIENDO. No fue hasta el año, año y medio que me volví a sentir yo al 100% (tanto física como mentalmente)

Luego está el tema económico: doble comida, doble pañales, doble ropita. Y el tema de "apego", Nico esta semana cumple dos años, y todavía lo siento MUY apegado- nos necesita para absolutamente todo.  Y nosotros no tenemos ayuda en la casa, ni niñera (¡cosa que también está bien!!). Ambos trabajamos desde la casa (pre-pandemia) y nos dividimos las responsabilidades como podemos.

Así que la respuesta es que estamos CASI listos- yo quiero esperar un poco más, que Nico deje los pañales, sea más independiente,  vaya a la escuelita (que se supone que empezaba pronto pero el virus  nos cambió los planes a todos de todas las maneras posibles), etc.

Pero no les miento, si siento la presión social del segundo. El 90% de mis amigas/conocidas que salieron embarazadas al mismo tiempo que yo con Nico, están embarazadas en estos momentos o ya tuvieron a su segundo bebé.  En parte me hace sentir que estamos esperando demasiado, o lo que dice todo el mundo "es mejor salir de eso de una".

¿Pero "salir" de que? Yo me sigo disfrutando a mi chiquito un mundo (en estos momentos lo veo y quiero que se quede así de delicioso), y sé que si llega el momento los disfrutaré a los dos.


Y por si estás en las mismas, te repito lo que me digo A MMI:
Todo a su tiempo, no te compares con nadie, todas las parejas son distintas.
Solo ustedes dos saben cual es la mejor decisión para tu hogar, solo ustedes dos saben cual es el momento indicado, y si no llega ese momento, no le deben explicaciones a nadie. 


Eso es todo. Disculpen el monólogo. Y si quieren más posts personales, soy toda oídos.










10 THINGS ABOUT...QUARANTINE LIFE

Wednesday, May 6, 2020



I'm not just even going to make excuses for myself. I'm just going to star blogging again because I absolutely love writing and I just have to get my groove back (and make time for it).

So I'm going to start with 10 THINGS ABOUT OUR QUARANTINE LIFE SO FAR:

1) Every day I remind myself that I am not stuck or trapped at home- that we are SAFE at home. 
 We are so lucky to have a safe roof over our heads, food on our table...and so lucky to be healthy.

2) Work-wise it has been hard. Many of my campaigns were cancelled- and most of my husband's clients are hotels (aka everything was cancelled too). But again, we are trying to stay as positive as possible- adapting, evolving and finding ways to stay busy and creative.

3) Talking about being creative, we have been doing tons of photoshoots at home (you can see them on my Instagram @nany). I'll share more of them slowly. We try to take advantage of Nico's nap time and shoot videos/photos. It keeps us sane and we just have fun with it.

4) Nico was supposed to start preschool in April. We were so excited for him, we wanted him to interact with other kids and see him learn new things. So for now we are just taking one day at a time with him. I'm not stressing out with tons of educational activities, we have fun- we dance, we play, we watch movies (yes, average mom right here!). I know it is hard for him too, we used to go to the park several days a week and have playdates. I can tell he misses all of it.

5) I started doing a video series called #NANYSREMIXVIDEO. I have picked 10 wardrobe essentials and I do 10 looks with each of them. I really try for them to be truly different. When I'm styling, I try to think of different personalities and lifestyles. For example, I try to include a business look even though I don't work at an office. I'll start sharing those here too, with more details and tips!

6) I think what I miss the most is working out with my friends. My close friends and I were doing Classpass and we had so much fun going to different classes every day.  Right now I'm trying to stay active by working out in my balcony. Thankfully it is big enough for a yoga mat and some dumbbells I have. So I've been doing the SWEAT app. I love the format and the app and I've stayed *kinda* on track.

7) When the quarantine started, it was my husband's birthday (March 24th). At the moment I thought "no way we will still be in quarantine by Nico's birthday (May 17th)". Either way I ordered some stuff and I thought that no matter if it was only us, we were going to celebrate it. I know he won't remember anything but it's for me. I LOVE LOVE LOVE birthdays and I want him to love them too.

8) I opened a TIKTOK account (@Nanysklozet there too). I'm still figuring out my niche and my voice there. It's such a fun app but it's hard to just talk about one thing. I love fashion, and I'm a mom. I like fitness. I like makeup. I like home decor. And even though I promised I wouldn't dance there, I used to be a dancer and it is a bit fun!

9) Let me know what you have been watching on Netflix, Hulu, Disney+, etc etc. The last thing I watched was "Never Have I ever", it was very cute. I recommend it.  I've also watched random things like "Too Hot Too Handle"- and meh, it was entertaining- don't judge!

10) We have DANCE PARTIES every day. Nico absolutely loves dancing and he makes everyone dance. Literally if you are sitting down, he will grab you by the hand and make you dance.  He has such a fun personality and LOVES being the center of attention.

With this little summary, let's get this started!!!!






HOLIDAY OUTFITS AND HOLIDAY SHOPPING with Nordstrom

Thursday, November 28, 2019

This post is sponsored by Nordstrom and ShopStyle




Growing up in Venezuela, we didn’t really celebrate thanksgiving. When I moved to the U.S, it was instantly a Holiday that I liked celebrating because it reminds us to stay thankful, to revisit the year, and remember the good while spending it with family and loved ones.

I married a Puertorican, and they do celebrate Thanksgiving…their own way. The dishes are a bit different, but oh-so yummy. So I’ve learned that I have to be prepared for the most delicious eating. That’s why this dress from Topshop I got at Nordstrom was perfect for the occasion; it is roomy but it is still very cute; family appropriate but young and fun; and easy to layer if you live in colder weather.

Walking by Nordstrom, I had to get this green velvet handbag (similar here) with the chunky chain- it brings the greens in the floral dress and it is also perfect for the Holidays.

Last touches? The HONEY earrings and the fisherman hat.   I think they really bring the whole look together


You all know that I love matching with my little boy, even if we are in the same color palette. He was also very comfortable in his corduroy pants and grey sweater by Tucker + Tate, also from Nordstrom.

Also, did you already get your Holiday shopping done? I still have to buy everyone’s Christmas gifts. Nordstrom has their own curated gift guide section with categories like “Gifts Under $100” or “Gifts For Him”. Here are a few of my ideas for what to get:


FOR YOUR LITTLE ONES


FOR YOUR BEAUTY OBSESSED FRIEND-COUSIN



FOR A GUY IN YOUR LIFE


Nordstrom is having their Cyber Sale happening now! Make sure to check it out here to get up to 50% off.


If you’re still in need of more Holiday outfit ideas for every occasion, visit my brand new Nordstrom Looks page by clicking here.












HALLOWEEN IDEAS: Family costume - NEMO, Darla and Dentist

Tuesday, October 22, 2019



This costume was so fun, and people really loved it last year on my IG. I guess NEMO is such a cute movie that it really resonates with so many people.

My son had to be Nemo, of course. I went for Darla and my husband was the dentist. 

OUTFIT/COSTUME DETAILS:
My skirt was from Target, and it also works for Cher in Clueless.
The purple sweater is an XL in kid's size. If you can't find a piece, check the junior department!!
I did the braces by twisting aluminum fold, it took me less than 5 minutes.
I could have gotten a redhead wig but the two little ponytails with my brown hair work too.
Here's the link to Nico's Nemo costume, and to my husband's scrubs.

HOPE YOU LIKED IT!


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Aquí viene otra idea de disfraces: está vez en familia.

¡¡¡NEMO, DARLA, y el dentista!!

Fue super divertido de hacer, aparte que Nemo es una película tan linda que a todo el mundo le pareció una ternura. Les dejo todos los detalles:

Mi falda es de Target,  no es de disfraz, todavía tengo en mente disfrazarme de Cher la de Clueless co está falda.
Mi suéter es del departamento de niños, no encontraba un suéter morado y lo encontré en Hanes en la talla más grande.
Los brackets los hice doblando papel aluminio, mega sencillo de hacer.
Darla tiene el cabello rojo pero preferí simplemente hacerme dos cositas.

Aquí les dejo el enlace del disfraz de Nico y el de mi esposo.

¡ESPERO QUE LES HAYA GUSTADO!








HALLOWEEN IDEAS with BABY: Cruella de Vil + Puppy

Monday, October 14, 2019



I've always loved Halloween. My birthday is a few days before Halloween and it feels like the perfect excuse to make my friends dress up at my parties.

However, since becoming a mom (and since I enjoy dressing up so much), I started thinking about all the amazing costumes I wanted to do with my little one. Since I have this blog, I have the perfect excuse to dress up to give you all tons of ideas.

This costume is from last year but I never shared them here.  Looking for inspiration, I found tons of mommy + baby costumes with Disney Princesses and their pet (aka Little Mermaid and flounder,  Jasmine + the tiger, etc). However, I love the dark side of Halloween- so I thought it would be way more fun to dress up as a villain!! And I WAS RIGHT! Cruella was one of my favorites to do last year; the perfect mix of evil and fashion!

I'm also trying to make sure my costumes are made with pieces I already own, or will rewear again. I'm trying to stay away from store costume, at least for me. 

ALL YOU NEED
Fashion-wise:
- A little black dress. You can play around with the style you feel the most glamorous in.
- A faux-fur coat (so easy to get at thrift stores).
- Red heels (I ended up with black heels, loved them too).
- Red gloves

Beauty-wise:
- Red lipstick
- Vibrant green eyeshadow and strong eyebrows.
- At this point I had long hair so I did a faux-bob hairstyle and I used white hair spray to get that classic Cruella look.



It was so much fun!!

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Siempre pero SIEMPRE me ha gustado Halloween. Cumplo años el 25 de octubre, entonces mi celebración de cumpleaños era la excusa perfecta para hacer que mis amigos se disfrazarán.

Pero admito que desde que nació Nico (estas fotos son del año pasado),  hay algo en mí que quiere hacer todos los disfraces posibles porque va a haber un momento donde el no va a querer disfrazarse conmigo.

Cuando empecé a buscar inspiración en Pinterest, encontré muchos disfraces de princesas de Disney (como Ariel y Flounder o Blancanieves y los enanitos). Pero yo como la rebelde que soy de corazón, dije: ¿Y LAS VILLANAS?

También intento que mis disfraces se puedan hacer con piezas que ya tengo en el closet o que pueda encontrar fácil y re-usar- van a ver que esto va a ser común en todos los disfraces que he hecho.  Por esta razón, CRUELA ES PERFECTA- aparte es fashion y malévola.



PARA LA ROPA:
- Un vestido negro
- Un abrigo de piel (preferiblemente sintética o vintage).
- Tacones (los de la caricatura son rojos, pero yo opté por unos negros).
-  Guantes rojos.
- Aretes llamativos.


PARA EL LOOK DE BELLEZA:
En ese momento yo tenía el cabello largo, entonces hice un bob falso. Lo dividí por un lado y apliqué un spray de cabello color blanco.
En cuanto al maquillaje: unos labiales rojos y una sombra verde escarchada.

¡Este es uno de mis favoritos de siempre!!