Tuesday, April 10, 2018

I've had this post in my drafts for a while. There is so much I want to say but at the same time I don't know how to put the words together in a way that not only makes sense for moms/moms to be, but also for my non-mommies.

There is so much pressure for pregnant women to stay fit and tiny during pregnancy, to not have stretch marks... and don't even get me started on the pressure to bounce "back" and look better than ever AFTER the baby. But I'll probably talk more about this when I have my boy.

When you are pregnant you will hear a lot of:
"OMG you are HUGEEE, you are probably about to pop"
"OMG such a tiny belly, are you sure you are eating right?"
"OMG it has to be a boy because of XXX "
"My belly/my friend's belly was so much bigger/smaller"

As someone who has struggled with weight and diets since I was a little girl, I'm not going to lie: all of these comments offended me somehow. You can blame  the hormones all you want, but it's also RESPECT.
1. Nobody wants to be told they look huge- even with triplets.
2. I really dislike being compared to anyone or analyzed. It's my body- all bodies are different- all pregnancies are different. 

When I miscarried last year, I blamed myself a lot. I felt some sort of anger towards my body "for not being capable". I was able to forgive myself, to not think that it was my fault in any way.  But at the same time, this fear has stayed with me throughout my pregnancy.  Nutritionists might say I could have been more active or eat a bit better, but I'm just listening to my body and feeling blessed to have this little miracle inside me that I will never take for granted.

What I want to get to is that all we want to hear is that we are looking beautiful or that we are glowing (even we have been puking the whole 9 months and look terrible). 

And you, fellow mom-to-be: don't be so harsh on yourself. 
It's okay if your belly is bigger than others. 
It's okay if you are 7 months pregnant and still have your abs.
It's okay if you gained a little more weight that you should have.
It's okay if you got stretch marks.
It's okay if you had that extra cookie.
It's okay...

 You are creating life and there isn't anything more beautiful than that.

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  1. ¿Por qué esta reflexion es solo en inglés? No es una crítica pero siendo latinas no llego a comprender porqué excluimos nuestro propio idioma.Hay mujeres que no son bilingües y por tanto no pueden entender tu mensaje. Mensaje que está cargado de razón y de fuerza para todas nosotras, en un momento tan crucial, como es el de dar vida a otro ser.


  3. You put into words how I have felt and struggle through getting over after two kids a miscarriage. I also felt offended with similar comments but I held onto it and let them hurt my confidence more than I should have. But I have grown from the experience. Thanks such a great post!

  4. No sé porque he tardado tsnto en leer tus artículos si te digo desde hace mucho en instagram. Me encantó tu manera de escribir y expresarte, es como hablar con tu mejor amiga. Excelente trabajo nanny eres una inspiración.